Want to know what is in people’s hearts? Listen to what they say. How they talk to and about others is quite revealing.
31 From the mouth of the righteous comes the fruit of wisdom, but a perverse tongue will be silenced.
Jesus said, 18 “But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these [can] make a person ‘unclean.'” Matthew 15:18. Our hearts rule our mouths. So, how can we control our hearts? Well, we can’t. The only way is to give our hearts to Jesus and allow Him to rule in our hearts, which He does by teaching us to renew our minds with His words and His Presence and participation in our lives.
This verse seems impossible: 29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their need, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29 How on earth are we supposed to do it?! Paul gives the key in another letter.
Do not live…“by the standards of this world. 3 For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. 4 The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. 5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:2b-5
Where did we ever get the idea that we can take or leave Christ’s directives? His way is the only way through this dangerous maze of life. Jesus says,
18 “Therefore consider carefully how you listen [to Me]. Whoever has will be given more [ever-increasing dependence upon Him]; whoever does not have [dependence upon Christ], even what they think they have will be taken from them [selective dependence is really no dependence at all].” Luke 8:18
Let’s make sure that we are listening and obeying EVERY command of Jesus, especially concerning how we talk to others. If we are impatient with our wife/husband/children, then we are demonstrating that we have an impatient heart. Patience is one of the fruit of the Spirit. If we have the Spirit, then we will hear/feel His conviction even as the words leave our mouths. We MUST learn, by His direction and power, to step back and catch those words at the source–our heart. What is it that makes us impatient? Allow the Spirit to reveal the root and to dig it up. It’s vital to our spiritual health–and our physical health, too!