Anger mirrors the wrong side of God. We must make sure that we are displaying God’s love and mercy.
10 The Fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.
Jesus came to show us a different side than what Solomon knew. His wisdom was based on God’s judgement and wrath (*OC). It is what is in store for those who reject Jesus, who is the Way, the Truth, the Life (John 14:6), The Door (Luke 13:23), and the Gate (John 10:7). He is the entry into a whole new relationship with God, one that goes beyond His judgement and wrath and into His love, His acceptance, His adoption, His presence, and even His inheritance!
Therefore, we must learn to go beyond our own propensity toward anger and learn to love as He loves. Consider these verses:
Matthew 5:21 “You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘You shall not murder, and anyone who murders is subject to judgment.’ 22 But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment.
James 1:19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. 21 Therefore, get rid of all moral filth [which includes anger] and the evil that is so prevalent [in a lot of marriages] and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you [from all kinds of pitfalls, temptations, hidden snares, heartache, and damage to your soul, marriage, and other relationships].
Let’s follow some logic here.
- If we are commanded to marry a fellow Christian and not be unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14), then our mates ARE our brother or sister in Christ, respectively.
- If they are our brother or sister, then Christ’s command concerning anger applies.
- Guys, if we get angry with our wives, then we come into judgement and our prayers will be hindered. 1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, in the same way [in the same love for the Father] be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker [more delicate] partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. With all the rain we have had lately, I ran across a really good analogy of the difference between men and women in the marriage relationship. Guys are like rain gauges; they are put into the path of the storm to measure rainfall. Women are like barometers; they are kept in a safe place to measure air pressure. Men are tough; women are sensitive. Men are general; women are specific. Both are needed; both have different applications.
- If we continue in pride, then we WILL get an attitude adjustment from the LORD (see James 4:6). He allows us to live with the consequences of our bad choices all the while walking through those consequences with us. HE is the only one who can turn consequences into eventual blessings. Romans 8:28 is still in play here.
Let’s avoid any consequences by making sure that we are loving our brothers and sisters as Christ loves His church. Let’s be willing to die for each other all the while living for each other.
One more verse: Philippians 2:3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility, value others above yourselves…[even to the point of humiliation, just as Christ suffered on the cross, thus identifying with Him in His sufferings, as indicated in 3:10].
*OC = Old Covenant or Testament