Respect is a one-way street. The Lord asks us to give respect regardless of others’ response. It’s called loving unconditionally. It’s HIS kind of love.
4 A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones. Pr 12:4
The “noble character” is her Christ-like character. It’s what the Holy Spirit generates in her by His resurrection power. She got that way by learning to die to self and live for Him, to get out of the way and allow Christ to lead in her life. Was it easy? No! It took many days, weeks, and years to learn to respond rather than react, to not speak rather than to say something destructive, and to make sure that her body language and facial features did not reveal what her natural self was thinking.
Have you seen it, yet, guys? CHRIST ASKS THE SAME OF US! We can only get there by walking ever in His presence, abiding in Him and obeying His direction.
Marriages are friendships, and friendships are where we are to practice our Christlikeness. Let’s live these verses:
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Ep 5:21
3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.
… 5 Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: Phl 2:3,5
32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ep 4:32
Related verses From today’s chapter: 14, 16, 18, 23
Assignment: Record (either literally or mentally) your next conversation with someone with whom you struggle having a respectable conversation WITH THE EXPRESS PURPOSE of critiquing yourself: do you sound loving and respectful, or is your tone harsh? Are you whiny? manipulative? Did you have to “win” the argument? Was Christ honored by your part of the conversation?
Our joy is at stake here, as well as our marriages and our testimony. Let’s get this right!