When we speak unlovingly to or judgmentally about others, we presume to be above that person. We are NOT!
Proverbs 18:1 An unfriendly man pursues selfish ends; he against all sound judgment starts quarrels.
This chapter is our monthly reminder to “set a guard over my mouth, O LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips.” Psalms 141:3. What we say and how we say it gives shape and weight to our feelings–which are controlled by our physical and mental states, and those are subject to all kinds of variations. If we can place a “pause” between what we feel and what we say and run our words through some biblical filters, then we will be a long way down the road to godliness. Remember: If we change the way we think, we can change the way we feel. –Beth Moore
Let’s look at some filters:
Proverbs 18:2 A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions. We can find wisdom even in fools’ mouths (sometimes it’s in learning what NOT to do). We are to care for the person even if we don’t value his/her opinion.
 The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts. Sharing our opinions about others is DANGEROUS! Unless we are directly involved and the other person is directly involved AND we have permission from the person about whom we are talking, it is not our place to say anything. Jesus warns us,
Matthew 7:1-5 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.“
Realistically, we have NO IDEA how we would react in any given situation, so we cannot say, “We’ll, I would have____________.” If the person was following the Spirit’s leading, then–if we are in step with the Spirit–we would have done EXACTLY as they did. We need to get over ourselves!
Proverbs 18:13 He who answers before listening— that is his folly and his shame. Even though this verse reeks of pride, let’s consider it differently in that a person can forecast the outcome of a situation out of fear and insecurity as well as laziness and pride. The idea is to not tell God how things will turn out. He may have something wonderfully surprising in store! We Christians should live with the phrase, “I didn’t see that coming!” as our mantra. Walking in step with the Lord means that He is involved in our lives and in those around us. Expect God-things to happen.
Let’s use this verse as our life-verse for the day:
Proverbs 18:20 From the fruit of our mouths [our] stomach is filled; with the harvest from our lips [we are] satisfied.
Let’s make sure to have God-controlled speech today. We will be amazed at how much we will learn about godliness!