Listening is a big deal. We must turn our ears to listen for His still, small voice. It comes from unexpected places!
Proverbs 13:10 Where there is strife, there is pride, but wisdom is found in those who take advice.  Whoever disregards discipline comes to poverty and shame, but whoever heeds correction is honored.
This one sneaks up on us all the time. Someone says something snappy or does something contrary to what we think they ought to do (sometimes against common sense!), and–POW–we get in the flesh real quick. How do we break this habit? By learning to step back another step and figuring out what triggers such a fleshly response from us. It doesn’t matter if we are justified; what matters is responding as the Holy Spirit directs.
The real problem lies in the fact that we don’t WANT to change that part of our lives. It requires too much effort, or too much of our lives, or too much of our dignity. We must learn to check with the Spirit every time we have a check in our spirit!
There is a promise in verse 3, “From the fruit of their lips people enjoy good things…” The fruit that needs to come from us is loving statements, joyful comments, peace-giving remarks, all the while practicing patience, being kind and good, being faithful to our Lord and what we have learned about being like Him, being gentle in spirit, and wielding self-control like a light saber (all fruit of the Spirit listed in Galatians 5:22-23).
Don’t have a good answer for a stupid question? Try quoting Scripture! Brother Robert taught me that it doesn’t even have to relate to the subject! It is amusing to you and informative for the other person. What we need to remember is that  “righteousness guards the person of integrity,” so we need to work at responding in love rather than in sharp words. Try not to roll your eyes, either…
This lesson takes a lifetime; we may as well have fun with it!