What we say reveals our heart. Let’s make sure that our hearts are surrendered to Jesus and in line with the Spirit.
There are twelve verses in this chapter that mention what we say. There are several others that infer what we say. Here’s a big one:
Proverbs 10:12 Hatred [hatefulness] stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs.
Are we thinking through what we are about to say? Are we aligning it with Scripture? Are we paying attention to our body language and to our facial expression? Dying to self is important at this point because we have a tendency to make it about us when it needs to be about the other person–actually, it needs to be about what the Holy Spirit is directing us to say/do. HE is the only ONE who knows what both parties need. His goal is for us to be godly. Our goal should be that, too.
Know this: If we harbor malice and bitterness in our hearts toward another person, IT WILL show up in our speech to that person. Whether it’s in marriage or family, we MUST give those feelings to the Spirit and allow Him to fill us with forgiveness and love for that person. We only need enough for the moment, but if we add enough moments together, we get consistency.
For example, when we read our Bibles four or more times a week, our lives begin to change into what we read. The same goes with dealing in grace with our spouse/friend/loved one. It’s weird that we would “hate” those closest to us, but they are the ones who can wound us the deepest. We must practice being Christ to them. Is it fair? NO! Is it easy? Nope. Does it yield fast results? Usually not. Will we be taken advantage of? Surely! Does it matter? Not really. It’s in the practicing that we become more and more like Christ. We leave the results up to God!
Taming the tongue requires Divine intervention (James 3:1-12). Let’s begin TODAY allowing the Spirit to guide us in our conversations with others.